7 REASONS PEOPLE CHEAT EVEN WHEN THEIR RELATIONSHIP APPEARS PERFECT

By Inspire Dot

Whenever a friend or family member breaks the news that their relationship is over because their partner cheated on them, it often comes as a shock. After all, on the surface, it appeared that the relationship was on solid footing. They seemed so in love! Their significant other seemed like such a nice person! You got the feeling that they’d spend the rest of their lives together. And then you find out there’s a side to them that you had no idea about. Why is cheating so common, even when everything seems so perfect? Here are seven common reasons people are unfaithful.

1. They aren’t ready for a long-term commitment

No matter how deeply someone may love another person, the idea of potentially spending the rest of their lives together can be intimidating if they are not psychologically prepared for a long-term commitment. Getting married, which leads to buying a house together and then having children, is a huge, life-changing decision to make. Cheating on that partner—especially when they’re doing nothing to hide their infidelity—offers something of an “off-ramp,” since it provides a convenient excuse for the relationship to end. One thing is certain: the person they’re having the affair with doesn’t stand a chance either.

2. They have deep insecurities

Although extremely superficial, many people in committed relationships are ultimately unfaithful because they measure their self-worth in terms of the number of people they can have a physical relationship with. Sure, they know that their partner finds them sexually desirable, but it’s something they take for granted. What they want is to walk down the street and have others find them desirable as well. It provides an ego boost. It confirms that they still have what it takes to sweep others off their feet. Ultimately, it is a cruel and disgusting way to go through life, especially when their partner is doing their best to keep them happy, but it’s just the reality with a lot of people.

3. They hit it off with someone new, even when they weren’t planning on it

This kind of affair usually starts very innocently. They meet a new colleague who seems cool, and then they harmlessly flirt with each other a bit, and eventually become comfortable enough to confide in each other. They discover that they have a lot in common (or at least that’s what they perceive). They vent about their current relationships. They like that they can spend time together without bickering. And then gradually they fall for each other. They go to a bar and drink a little bit more than they should, and next thing they know, they’re sharing a bed and their relationship with their partners back home are never the same.

4. They’re a pathological liar

There are folks in this world who can’t get through a single day without lying. We aren’t just referring to relationships either; lying consumes all aspects of their life, whether it is at work, in their social circle, or especially to themselves! They may not even recognize their own deception, as lying is ingrained in their nature. So naturally, they will be inclined to cheat on their partner and then come up with an elaborate story to cover it up. They’re often so convincing that they can get away with it for months or even years, but eventually the evidence presents itself—the partner finds a text or happens to catch them in the act—and no amount of gaslighting will change that.

5. They’re unhappy with multiple aspects of their life

Those who cheat aren’t always doing it with the intention of hurting their partner. In fact, they really might love them. But when they face a litany of problems, whether it’s the stress of their job, financial issues, or even mourning the loss of an important person in their life, they will seek out others for comfort. They feel vulnerable. They’re looking to relieve their stress. And so, unfortunately for the person being cheated on, this means they’re forming bonds with others that quite often turn romantic.

6. Cheating provides a rush

For some people, there’s a cheap thrill in being able to cheat on a partner and get away with it. It’s like a game to them. It’s kind of a weird situation in which they might actually be perfectly content with their relationship. Their significant other provides them with all of their emotional and financial needs. And yet they also want to continue playing the field as long as they can continue not to get caught.

7. They’ve fallen out of love

This might be the saddest of all the reasons for cheating. Simply put, there is no longer any love in the relationship. The couple might have discovered that they’ve both changed, and so they are no longer the same people that they were when they first began dating. But why cheat instead of simply breaking off the relationship? The reason is simple: it has become a relationship of convenience. Perhaps they remain together on paper for the sake of their children. Or they’re not eager to pay a divorce lawyer thousands of dollars to sort things out. But no matter the reason, their loveless relationship means there will be girls or guys on the side.